I sincerely apologize for my total failure to update this blog with any sort of regularity. My short time in Nepal thus far has reminded me of a supremely valuable life lesson: nothing goes according to plan, and if it does, it is a hell of a lot less valuable of an experience. Hopefully this time, I will not forgot it. Another lesson: not every white person who goes to Nepal thinks, feels, or appreciates things as you do. In fact, at least for me in this currently unfolding experience, it has frequently been the opposite. I hate to rant and complain, as it will only fan the flames of suffering, flames that I will have to extinguish through my own right effort if I am to ever escape the oppressive heat of my ego. Our unenlightened notions of a permanent self are like a fire, obscuring and distorting and consuming our actions and perceptions. The fire of ego burns so ferociously in us that we will go to almost any length to satisfy it. We amass useless fortunes when billions live off a few dollars a day, collect hordes of exotic luxury cars when many have no access to transportation at all, pay thousands for a worthless mass of carbon atoms (diamonds) that fund civil wars and genocides, undergo elaborate surgical procedures to reshape our nose or have a bigger bust even though burn victims cannot get skin grafts because they lack the right insurance, and destroy others' lives as well as our own just to feel powerful or popular or 'good' for a few fleeting moments. To see through the smoke and flames, the fire of ego must be extinguished. What lies beyond the blazing delusions of ego? The true self that transcends notions of subject and object: the Tathagatagarbha, or Buddha-nature. This is what the Buddha taught. Granted, I am a hypocrite, full of flowery and lovely speech but severely lacking in right view and right intention and just about every precept of the Noble Eightfold Path. I can make plenty of excuses, but they are just that, excuses, empty and devoid of any lasting form or meaning.
Anyways, that has nothing to do with why I started writing this post. It has virtually nothing to do with my (there's that damn ego again) time here, does not convey any useful or exciting information about my experiences, and hasn't made me feel any better about the less-than-ideal relationships (if they can even be called that) that have materialized between myself (ego) and the others in the group. Another pertinent lesson that even trying to develop attachment towards others will only bring suffering. I'll leave you with this, a poem written in my (ego) home stay sister's annual school magazine. It was written by a ten-year-old Tibetan girl, more proof that wisdom and kindness have nothing to do with misguided notions of maturity. Enjoy and take note.
Anyways, that has nothing to do with why I started writing this post. It has virtually nothing to do with my (there's that damn ego again) time here, does not convey any useful or exciting information about my experiences, and hasn't made me feel any better about the less-than-ideal relationships (if they can even be called that) that have materialized between myself (ego) and the others in the group. Another pertinent lesson that even trying to develop attachment towards others will only bring suffering. I'll leave you with this, a poem written in my (ego) home stay sister's annual school magazine. It was written by a ten-year-old Tibetan girl, more proof that wisdom and kindness have nothing to do with misguided notions of maturity. Enjoy and take note.
If You Want To...
If you want to eat, eat anger
If you want to talk, talk gently and politely
If you want to fight, fight for truth
If you want to help, help the poor
If you want to build, build your character
If you want to increase, increase your knowledge
If you want to keep something, keep silence
If you want to learn, learn manner and discipline
If you want to see, see yourself
By Tenzin Riksang, Class V
Hi Doug,
ReplyDeleteBeautiful poem. :)
Don't worry about post frequency (**as long as it's courage..!!!). Enjoy every moment of your time there. (And everywhere and always! But in the meantime, where and when you are right now!). It sounds like a wonderful and challenging and eye-opening and revealing and unique experience.
Sorry you feel like there's conflict bubbling up in your group. (Whether or not there is realization of this yet, I bet you're all lucky to be there with each other.)
I'm so glad to have gotten to semester with (the conglomeration of forces and factors that coalesced for those moments to form) you, three years ago. I'm still a little unclear on the Buddhist definitions of attachment and love, but I've been coming to define my own distinction between them, and I know that knowing you has certainly only brought good things into my life. (No suffering.) So, keep that in mind.
Take care!! Looking forward to reading the next installment. ^_^
<3 sandy