Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Sacré Bleu, or The Tantric Approach to Unpleasant French Women

What follows is perhaps, almost certainly, the least pleasant interaction I have had with a human being, indeed any sentient being, whilst in Ladakh. And yet, as I have reflected on it since it happened this morning, I have thus come to realize this incidents value as a quite profound teaching as I attempt to walk the path of the Buddhas. It unfolded as I was going for kora, ritual circumambulation, around the Chokhang Vihara, also known as Gompa Soma (New Gompa), which is the main Buddhist gompa (monastery) and lhakhang (temple) in central Leh. To the best of my memory, this is how it unfolded.

I walk into the Chokhang, and as I begin my kora, I notice on older Caucasian woman, European by the looks of it, attempting to light up a cigarette. I can stomach and ignore tourists being loud, or rude, walking the wrong directions, wearing shorts and other revealing clothing, and most of the other disrespectful things they do while in Buddhist gompas and sacred sites, but not this. This was intransigence at its highest. The Ladakhis might be too nice to confront her, but I am not.

Doug: Excuse me, but you cannot smoke here.

Old French Woman:   [Looks up in annoyance]

D:        I don’t mean to be rude but…

OFB:   Go away [gives slight wave of hand, by which she clearly means ‘fuck off,’ and resumes attempting to light cigarette]

Realizing that this woman is far more determined to smoke her cigarette and disrespect this sacred place than I am to stop her, I continue with my kora and leave this foul soul to wallow in carcinogens and her even more noxious personality. Having finished my circumambulation of the Chokhang, I stand on some stone steps shaded by a few trees near the front of the main lhakhang, reciting some last few mantras of OM MANI PADME HUM (HRI), when the Old French Woman, walks up to me.

OFW:  You cannot talk to people like that.

I attempt to be conciliatory, and indulge her with an apology that she does not deserve.

D:        I am sorry. I didn’t mean to come across as rude, but I realize that I did.

OFW:  You cannot tell people what they can do.

D:        I know, but really, you cannot smoke here.

OFW:  [Clearly perturbed that I will not give up my admonishment] According to who, to you?!

D:        According to them…[I motion to the Ladakhis behind her and the literal writing on the wall behind them which states in big bold letters ‘YOU ARE SITTING IN A HOLY PLACE, DON'T USE ALCOHOL, TOBACCO IN ANY FORM’]…it’s actually written on the wall.

OFW:   [Boiling with anger] You’re from the States aren’t you?

D:        Yes.

With my affirmation, I have virtually no doubt as to the vitriol that is to follow.

OFW: You know you should just stay there, closed.

She pauses, so consumed by her spiteful emotions that she is clearly at a loss for words; unable to convey in English the disgust inside her that only knows the language of French as a vehicle.

OFW:  You truly are an unbelievable country!

Shaking her head in utter contempt and disgust, she turns around and walks away. Now I am at a loss for words, so taken aback by her odiousness. As she walks off towards the side exit, completely failing, as do so many other foreigners and Indians, to walk about the temple properly—in a clockwise manner, I manage to get in the last words, which are the only words (other than expletives) which suddenly pop into my mind.

D:        [Somewhat sarcastically] Have a nice day.

The End


If I am the protagonist, and I self-righteously assume that I am, then the antagonist is an old French woman, particularly bitter in character. This old French woman was, or is, gripped by a state of mind that I have thus far encountered in several, but by no means a majority, of the older Europeans I have met whilst abroad. This mindset is the rather unfortunate combination of Eurocentric cultural hubris (Europe is still very much a White-Christian and White-Atheist Gentlemen’s club in which religious and racial-ethnic intolerance is just as endemic if not more so than in the United States) and what is basically an old Colonialist mentality. This attitude manifests not as the Noble White Conqueror from the glory days of Empire, but as the Noble White Traveler, who having skimmed Lonely Planet: India, now fully understands the infinitely complex histories, cultures, and beliefs of this nation of 1.2 billion (and counting) souls, 28 federal states, 23 recognized languages (as well as thousands of unrecognized languages and dialects), nine major religions and their numerous iterations, and hundreds if not thousands of distinct cultures.
These individuals have come to see the ‘simple’ and ‘antiquated’ cultures of Asia, but not to interact or engage with such cultures, and certainly not to respect or meaningfully internalize them. They take some pictures; buy some shawls, jewelry, and maybe a thangka or statue whose meaning and symbolism they are completely ignorant of; and visit a few of the places recommended in Lonely Planet. Physically, they may have left the West, but mentally they have not. Their minds are encased, trapped in the framework of the “First World,” of “Developed” economies, polities, and societies.
Developed in what sense? Physically and materially yes, but spiritually, metaphysically, and mentally we, by which I mean Western Judeo-Christian civilization, are infants; but seeds that have yet to be germinated. What arrogance! We grasp at the mundane world in front of us, taking the deceptions of our senses to be ultimate truth. Blindly, we ascribe permanence to form and appearance when their transience and emptiness, our transience and emptiness, is the true nature of existence. From the very instant they are completed, even the most fantastic buildings have begun to deteriorate and will eventually collapse and return to nothingness. Even the most complex, powerful machines, from the very moment they are assembled, have begun to rust and will eventually breakdown and be turned to scrap.  No matter the height, the architectural complexity, the beauty, the power, the cost; the flow of time, the vibration of electrons, and the decay of subatomic particles make no exceptions for the vanity and whims of human beings. The massive skyscrapers being constructed in the Middle East, in China, in India and elsewhere, will eventually be reduced to dust. Everything created must be destroyed. Anything born must eventually die, though the finality of destruction and death is itself mere illusion and similarly lacks any sort of permanence.
Impermanence is the defining reality of the physical world, the sole constant in an otherwise completely uncertain existence. The West denies, or perhaps has simply forgotten such fundamental truths. To quote the great Tibetan Poet-Yogin Milarepa, perhaps the single greatest example of a Buddhist practitioner since the Buddha himself, “All worldly pursuits have but one unavoidable and inevitable end, which is sorrow; acquisitions end in dispersion; buildings in destruction; meetings in separation; births in death.” Spiritual accomplishments however, do not decay, because they are timeless. The illuminated mind never fades in brightness, because the true nature of mind is primordially, innately, pure resplendence. It is unconditioned, neither dependent nor based upon anything else; therefore, nothing can add to its brightness, nothing can take away from its radiance, it is infinite having no beginning or end, it is self-so. The poisons of anger, desire, and ignorance may obscure it, block its blissful rays from emanating forth, but they cannot change it, damage it, or darken it. Like dirt on a mirror, dirt may alter or block what is reflected, but the mirror itself never ceases reflecting, and once cleaned, the mirror reflects with same pristine clearness that it did before becoming soiled. The mirror of luminous mind is within every single sentient life form. It is in me and you. It is in the Ladakhis, the Kashmiris, the Indian tourists, and the foreign tourists. It is the essential nature of all living things. It is even in the grumpy old French woman I encountered this morning, who strangely enough, I now owe somewhat of a debt of gratitude, for it is thanks to her, her cigarette addiction, and her foul attitude that caused me to reflect so intently on this episode of unpleasantness. And in my meditation, of which this is a byproduct, I have progressed beyond the obvious negativities of the incident, to realize the more subtle truths, and as is so befitting of Tantric Buddhism, turned this obstacle into a vehicle of greater understanding and compassion. The Dalai Lama has often said that enemies are the greatest teachers we have, because they teach us compassion and how to adapt and learn from disadvantageous circumstances.
As such, if I happen to again cross paths with this sour old French woman, I hope to tell her the following, “I’ve been reflecting quite deeply on what transpired between us this morning, and I have to say, I’ve come to some very lovely realizations because of it. That being the case, I’d actually like to thank you for confronting me as you did and saying what you said, since I’ve managed to learn some important lessons as a result. So, merci…but really, you can’t smoke in the monasteries and temples."

The Frequency is Courage,
Doug B.

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